"Anon" (tjsielsistneb)
02/28/2014 at 23:41 • Filed to: None
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"Anon" (tjsielsistneb)
02/28/2014 at 23:41 • Filed to: None | 0
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I'm the most socially akward person on the planet when I'm in an enviroment full of people in groups. Normal people, I can do. Joining a group? Nope.
JGrabowMSt
> Anon
02/28/2014 at 23:47 |
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Simple solution. Do what everyone else did when they went there, and bring your own group. You probably just didn't find the right group, and that's okay. When you find the right one, you'll fit right in.
Nibby
> Anon
02/28/2014 at 23:49 |
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scoob
> Nibby
02/28/2014 at 23:54 |
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u wot
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Nibby
> scoob
02/28/2014 at 23:55 |
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The Opponaut formerly known as MattP123
> Anon
03/01/2014 at 00:00 |
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I'm the same way. I never feel like I can jump in when I have something to say.
themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
> Anon
03/01/2014 at 00:01 |
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Eh, people are overrated. I've been asked before how I can feel okay going out for dinner or a drink by myself. My response is always the same - Have you talked to people these days? I would love a tavern that just had some well behaved dogs you could play some fetch with while having a beer. The conversation would probably be better too. :P
In all seriousness, you just need to learn to be comfortable with who you are and walk around with this attitude - no one really cares about other people's petty things. I assure you, no one in that coffee shop gave two shits if you looked awkward and dropped your change when trying to pay for your drink. If they did, then my follow up is this - how sad and pathetic is your life that a stranger dropping some coins is worth even a single brain cell to you? It takes time and you feel really weird at first, but you can learn and grow from it. I know because I was like you.
The first time you feel a spontaneous group form around you because they want to listen to your stories of the time you thrashed a beater chevy to the limits, or the time you got yanked off a boat by a pike when you were 11, or another funny story from your earlier days (I recommend thinking about a few anecdotes from your life and practice them in your head) - It is a pretty good feeling. Social anxiety that isn't crippling is not a mental disorder, but it is one hell of a hurdle sometimes.
ddavidn
> Anon
03/01/2014 at 00:06 |
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I can do that, I just choose not to. Now, when it comes to being in a room with someone who isn't one of my few friends... Then it's awkward. Especially if it's a girl. Ugh. Someday I have to get over that fear of girls.